Grounding has to do with how we surrender ourselves to the holding of gravity; meaning letting our energy settle back down inside of us – so we can figure out where we stand and what we need. Sometimes when we are upset we can feel our energy getting higher up in our bodies and kind of dizzying, we can feel either so charged we want to explode or even foggy or dizzy. This means that we have too much energy in the top part of our body, and not enough in the lower part.
If you think about it, all of the difficult feelings we have are in our upper body; our heads, chest, gut, throat, arms. Describe specific states (ex. face gets flooded, shakiness=anger with a co-worker, boss, or client) We feel support, freedom to move, and stability in our lower bodies, in our legs and feet.
Therefore, bringing our energy back down helps restore our sense of who we are and our sense of security. This is a big reason why people do things like yoga, meditation, or even working out – it helps them build on feeling grounded, less frantic, less stressed, and more able to be focused and effective.
A good way to picture this is if you have a stack of books, and some are big textbooks, and others little paperback books. If you put the bigger, wider, heavier books on top, and the little books underneath – the stack will be unstable and likely get knocked over with a slight disturbance. If you always make sure to keep the majority of the bigger, heavier books on the bottom, then the stack will not easily be undone.
People are no different; the more we are in touch with feeling our basic security and can stand our ground in the midst of strong emotions, and have energy connected to our sense of security, the more stable we are. If most of our energy goes up to the top of our “stack” we are likely to lose our balance and our power, and be unstable in dealing with something or someone well.
There is a reason for the common expression ”calm down”, in that it expresses the need we have to get “grounded” again in order to feel better and take care ourselves, and situations, more effectively. We have to always first be tending to how we are upset in order to be more aware of what is best in any situation. Notice: the word “up” in upset, meaning ungrounded. If we just react from our emotions, and don’t comfort and balance our “up” energy before responding, we will be missing out on a lot of opportunities to know what we really need. Slowing down our breathing and increasing our grounding is one powerful, good way to take care of ourselves and help us be more self-aware and self-connected.